Most Social Moves Placebo

 Autists don't notice many social manoeuvres.
 This results in realizing that they only work if you notice them. Someone tells the autist about some terrible social move they were oblivious to, then the autist works out the effect it was supposed to have, and it turns out it didn't replicate.

 For example, in most cases, bystanders don't notice insults. Too self-absorbed and/or illiterate. Insults simply don't matter - but they will notice if you get bent out of shape about them. If someone is offering veiled insults and they go over your head, they're wasting their time. Nothing will happen.

 With a few exceptions, social attacks accomplish the feat of making the attacker an unpleasant person. If someone offers you a gift, and you refuse to accept it, to whom does the gift belong? 

 If you believe they have power, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The point of the manoeuvre is your own defensive reaction.
 If you don't believe they have power, they don't.
 It's truly shocking to me how heavily normies rely on placebo effects in their social strategies. Begging to get pwned, even by incompetents.

 Tactical obliviousness works as well as genuine obliviousness. Understand they're zombies, not real people. They don't have real opinions or even real feelings. It's arcing from a short circuit and has nothing to do with you, provided you don't try to get close to it. If you're feeling generous you can point out it's unpleasant and ask if being unpleasant was the goal.