Upper vs. Lower Conflict in Gender Norms

 The upper classes know that gender norms fill needs. Having overtly fluid gender norms allows the upper classes to play lots of amusing games. Lots of good role-play jokes and such. Normally they will ensure the inegalitarian needs get filled one way or another, and when they don't, rather than being a problem, it's a problem member confessing to their inadequacy. They get filtered. Likewise, anyone gauche enough to have to admit to secret inegalitarian habits is too gauche to bother with. 

 This is catastrophic for the lower classes, but so what? Getting up for work is catastrophic for the lower classes. All of their family lines are doomed anyway, in the long run. Who cares? Never forget upper class populism, especially any kind of salus populi, is 110% fake. Public health initiatives are tax frauds, lol. Graft. [Be a net tax consumer, at industrial scale.]
 America needs world reserve currency status so this tax farming isn't a class self-own. The lower classes don't have any money to pay taxes with...

 When you try to enforce norms functional for the lower classes, you're rightly called a stick in the mud. Because you're calling them stupid. They know about the gender needs and they're seeing to them, and you're being too dense or autistic to notice. Admittedly at this point the upper classes are so rarefied I'm not sure they have gatherings bigger than a dinner party. Can it be called a class when it's so incoherent and atomized? 

 It's not really class warfare. The lower classes can stop Pridefully pretending to be part of the upper classes, trying to follow their norms, at any time. It's not illegal to see a hostile foreign influence that looks at you with contempt as being foreign and hostile, thus cutting off the influence.
 Though of course Revenge is Sour. They receive contempt because they're too incompetent to protect themselves from the contempt; if they could protect themselves there would be no hazard they need protection from. If an alleged lower class could give up Pride, could stop deserving catastrophic distortion sourced from the upper classes, would they really be a lower class member?