Nobody cares about strangers. Narcissists have boundary issues and think they're not strangers, that's why they sort of care. The narcissist thinks the stranger is in fact himself, but again. He imagines anything that happens to the stranger is in fact happening to him. This makes it impossible for narcissists to mind their own business.
In Reality, the narcissist isn't trying to do a kindness to you, he is trying to do a kindness to himself. When you don't benefit, as far as the narcissist is concerned, nothing went wrong. There is no need to correct. The fact their treacherous meddling was actively harmful would not be of interest to them, if they could perceive it.
Put another way, you can't hit a target you can't see. Even if the narcissist wanted to help, they would be unable to see what needs help, nor perceive the effect their efforts are having.
Narcissism is characteristic of small children. Toddlers couldn't help even if they wanted to and could see the target. They don't have anything to give yet. Even giving to other toddlers means re-gifting something they didn't earn for themselves. Trying to be kind is farcical under those conditions. Being self-absorbed is rational.
Gentlemen, I regret to inform you, but women. Women feel the need to use narcissistic boundary derangement to care for toddlers who aren't even strangers. They can't care for the child because they care for their blood-related family. She has to care for the child because she see the child as a part of her own physical body. She hallucinates her sympathy not as a simulation, but as direct stimulation. She has to be childish so her simplistic babby's first empathy doesn't stray too far from what the child genuinely needs. As usual, I assume this is due to aeons of dysgenic marriage practices, administered by men.
Turns out adults helping strangers is exactly as farcical as a toddler trying to help anyone. Adults can't understand a stranger's needs, and wouldn't care about them even if they could.
The classic example is helping a drowning man. Surely even a stranger can understand a problem this simple? Yes, probably the drowning man doesn't want to die. However, his community would be better off without him. Even the classic example is harmful.
Did he reach adulthood outside the desert without learning to swim? Did he wander off on his own; why aren't non-strangers already helping him? In what way does he not deserve to drown?
No, you should not piss on a stranger who happens to be on fire. Why aren't his friends already pissing on him?
See (hear) a baby stranded in the woods? Are the child's parents that careless, or is the baby there on purpose? Either way, mind your own business.
Even if you did want to be kind to a stranger, it is impossible. There is no path from A to B. A stranger won't be kind to you. A stranger that is kind to you, and you are likewise kind to them, is not a stranger.
In your bones, you already knew this. If you are attempting to look kind to strangers, it is exactly because you want to be harmful. Strangers defend themselves if you come with sword in hand, but open their arms if you come bearing gifts, letting you get inside their guard and do real damage.
Wanted to cut off your nose to spite your face. It's working, I guess. As intended. Carry on.
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