Healthy Marriage Hypothesis

 The women makes no decisions, she does exactly what the man tells her to do, like a robot. Unlike a robot, she tells the man how she feels. The man cares for her, so he adjusts his orders based on the feedback until the feedback is healthy. The only things a wife needs are social graces, humility, and obedience.

 She doesn't even tell the man her feelings on her own initiative. She does it because he told her to. The only exception is when she's imagining what he would order her to do, in the unlikely event that she sees a novel situation and can't contact him to ask in time. He should go out of his way to ensure she's properly programmed in all manner of situations so that this eventuality never arises. 

 For example, perhaps the man retains the soon-to-be-grandfather to tell him stories of raising kids, so he can tell his wife how he wants her to react. Pre-emptive simulation. 

 Social graces largely refer to phrasing things politely. She shouldn't express her emotions antagonistically. Clearly modern women struggle mightily...or rather, they were specifically trained to be as rude as possible.