Men are much more valuable to women than women are to men. Perhaps this wouldn't have happened if Caino masochiens wasn't polygynous, but it is. Average is around two wives per husband.
Consequently, women think Mr. Right is roughly twice as valuable as she is. She's expecting to match up to only half of him. If she marries a man roughly in her price range, she feels like she's way undermarket, as she's expecting him to get a second wife anyway. She doesn't have a fixed action pattern for monogamy, and cannot respond with reasonable emotions to the institution.
She can be tremendously happy to be the (for-now) sole wife of a man much more valuable than she is, but this makes the man dissatisfied, as he's clearly participating in a scam as the mark. Not to mention he's constantly experiencing the availability of options. "Yeah...I can just [[cheat]] right now if I want. Nothing's stopping me - especially not my first wife."
She can't emotionally accept a stable pairing.
He has no reason to accept the pairing she can accept.
Civilization requires monogamy to function. This is one of the ways civilization is worse than barbarism. It demands inhumanity, and not only does it demand inhumanity, it demands inhumanity from commoners, lol.
Without exception [[civilizers]] are indisputably utopians.
twice as valuable from the 40%/80% reproduce line?
ReplyDeleteOr the fact men pull twice the salary of women, on average.
ReplyDeletereally? i feel like i vaguely heard of this before but i don't see how it'd be true.
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ReplyDeletePerhaps it's more about net worth. Women get lots of handouts now, but are still harshly affected by their inability to save.
I remembered the proper search term.
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https://alrenous.blogspot.com/2022/02/slave-prices.html