Gee alrenous, why do you feel stupid today?
Today, I feel stupid for only now figuring out why you want to keep the object of your courtship secret. It's because girls will threaten each other out of risible jealousy, and girls are cowardly so it will work.
Turns out this secrecy impulse is a perfectly rational and probably genetic.
How to stop this? Ensure the girls have no idea who you're after. Either look aloof, keeping all courting interactions completely private, or flirt indiscriminately, so it's impossible to tell who you're serious about.
Or, you know, do the arranged marriage thing. End-run the entire dynamic. What if not isomorphic to adultery.
You may notice these indirect, manipulative tactics seem distinctly unmasculine. Feminine, even. That's because they are. Difficult, usually impossible, to engage in them and retain self-respect. Which is why you don't flirt. Don't court. Walk up to some bitch, say, "Hey you, marry me." Either it works or it doesn't, end of story.
"girls will threaten each other"
ReplyDeleteThreaten with what? Sabotaging the potential relationship? E.g. telling the man that you're a whore or something like that? Are male peasants also under the category of "girls"?
Btw, I probably lack this instinct. I thought they were just too cowardly to say it. My primary school friend told me he liked a girl once, I thought that meant he wanted me to say it to her for him, when I did it and he found out, he started to cry. That's how I learned.
I mean, I also don't see why they hide it since it's obvious to me when someone likes someone, unless normies indeed have worse social skills than a literal sperg. I used this to threaten one of my high school classmates who was always bothering me to leave me alone. I suggested to him I know about his romantic feelings and I might talk about them to unwanted ears. "How did you know??" Uh, I have eyes and I'm not retarded.
So cowardly it doesn't have to be a credible threat, or even a possible threat. Whatever random nonsense pops into mind first will work.
DeleteGirls often have worse social skills than spergs, yeah. The other guys probably also knew about him, but like to pretend not to.
i think that's a good reason girls hide their crush.
ReplyDeletei think boys hide it because they know they should have something to offer in exchange for value, but don't have it, and don't know why they don't have it. "marry me" "ok why" can't send a cheese wheel if you don't know how to make a cheese wheel and aren't an apprentice on a farm. replace apprentice with school and you can't send anything of any kind. and if you did, it's obviously not yours, ergo the power of "did you bring enough to share with the class"